Knowing where we come from is fundamental to knowing who we are and where we want to go.
Good quality relationships are key to healing from trauma. Developing and maintaining caring relationships is the most important thing we can do for children, young people and adults who have experienced trauma and loss.
Natural families need to be heard and supported to overcome whatever difficulties are preventing them being the parents their children need. Support needs to continue after any separation as family never stop being family, even at a distance.
All children separated from their family of birth should understand their 'story' and have access to good quality Therapeutic Life Story Work, their relationships with people who are important to them should be maintained.
Anyone living or working with traumatised children should have access to training support to understand the impact of trauma, including relationship trauma and vicarious trauma, and how best to nurture children, young people and those who care for them.
Ruth writes her own blog under the pseudonym mummy tiger where she shares her adoption story as an adopter. How to be adopted's blog is one that Ruth has found really useful from an adoptee's perspective.